Continued Relevance

Right on the heels of my posting about problems, I’m smacked in the face with a reminder of why this has to stay in the forefront.

What is the right answer when one individual looks at something and sees it as absolutely fine, and another sees the same things but as somehow lacking?  By my definition, the one that sees the situation as lacking is the one who has the problem.  What responsibility does the one who sees things as fine have on thier plate?  I think it depends on the relationship.  Unfortunately though, it can be a bit complicated.

On one hand, we are all closely related – we are all ONE.  There are many, many people who do not subscribe to this belief.  For those that do, our responsibility is to help others to the extent that assisting them:

1. doesn’t cloud our vision or cause us to forget that we are part of ONE.
2. is done out of Love and in alignment Spirit.
3. helps them get closer to remembering that they are part of ONE.

For those that don’t subscribe to that belief, our responsibility depends on how we label the relationship:

• For a spouse or other loved one, likely our responsibility is to help them.  This could be out of Love, or it could be out of appeasement.  Or self preservation.  Or family harmony, of one sort or another.
• For a friend, likely our responsibility is also to help but it will be offered on a less urgent basis than the previous.  I might put coworker in this bucket as well, but helping them might also depend on how it advances one’s own career.
• Outside these groups, likely our responsibility is to do nothing.

I’m busy.  My wife is busy.  Even my daughter is busy.  Therefore, things around the house sometimes aren’t done to the level that one or more of us would like.  So the others, assuming we’re all closer to the ONE side of the split above, help out – whether we understand it or not.  We all just accept it.